Quit Your Construction Job

There is a lot of work that goes into redesigning a new house. I watched the Instant Home Makeover show on Netflix and was amazed at how much planning it took to make the process successful. The designers diligently constructed a kitchen before the redesign to have it delivered carefully into the house to save time. It was a nail-biting process but it worked, and a brand new kitchen was installed. Can you imagine having a whole new kitchen, including backsplash, paint, microwave, everything done and installed in an hour? It would be so wonderful.

It's easy to redesign a house more than it is a person. I know, I've tried to redesign people to make them fit into my life but it's very draining. As a matter of fact, it's not my job to construct people. When there is a person I love or care about it's easy to try to build them, even when they don't want to be built. I keep trying to make them into something they don't desire to be. While trying to build someone else up, my building starts to tip over. my foundation starts to crumble. What happens if I crumble while building someone else up? I join their building. However, their building is not steady, then we all fall apart.

I had to quit my construction job when I realized what was happening. I had to take a step back and realize I was in another building that I wasn't supposed to be in. I was drained, lost, and confused about the direction my life was headed. 1 Corinthians 14:33 says "For God is not a God of confusion but of peace." ESV God does not bring confusion and emptiness but He brings peace when we are in His will. I had lost my peace trying to build other people, this is why I knew I had to go back to my building to redesign myself on the correct foundation called Jesus.

I know I'm not the only one that has been through this. If you are in a relationship that feels like you are trying to construct someone and losing yourself, it's time to step back from that relationship. It's time to quit the construction job.

If you're married, I'm telling you to get a divorce. You have to quit by putting the marriage into God's hands. Let Him do the construction in you and your spouse. Begin to work on you, the way God instructs. Put God as your foundation in marriage, even if you have to start on your own. Pray your spouse joins you in reestablishing the foundation as Jesus.

I pray that everyone reading this God gives the strength to quit their construction job. I pray He gives everyone discernment on who to help and how to help without stepping outside of God's will. I pray God will give everyone peace, in Jesus name.